Have you ever stopped to think about the types of relationships you have in your life? Or how those relationships can positively or negatively impact your life on a day to day basis? In all honesty, relationships can be extremely challenging to maneuver through. They also have the capacity to contribute to our greatest joys, as well as some of our biggest struggles. Yet, those same relationships can gift us the ability to clearly see and understand ourselves, while deeply connecting to others.

In today’s wellness conversation, Bonnie Moehle shares tools for shifting the entire dynamic of any relationship. She helps us understand how our own pattens and behaviors can directly impact how we relate to any relationship we are in. We also learn how to develop a great and loving relationship with self, in order for us to sustain a healthy relationship with others.

Bonnie Moehle is a Self Realization Coach with over 20 years of experience in personal, relationship, and executive development coaching arenas. She is also a Published Author, Work Shop facilitator, and Public Speaker. Bonnie has been helping people shift their perspectives by providing a non-judgmental, supportive environment, and the tools that truly impact the outcomes of everyday life circumstances.

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Literature Referenced:
Get Your Relationship On A No-Blame, Zero Criticism Diet
Non Violent Communication

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4:30 Mornings
02/01/16 4:46am

Day 1

Entry 1 It's a beautiful foggy morning in Austin, TX. I can't help but wax nostalgic when I feel the cool air and look into the mist. The weather was so much like it is today when we first moved to Austin.

I forget how amazing the mornings are, when everyone is still sleeping. It's so quiet, the birds yet to begin their morning chorus.

The sweet stillness is a great time to think and this mornings thoughts I share:

Patterns!

Patterns surround our lives in so many ways! From the fabric we wear to the cycles of the seasons. Patterns make up a great part of our existence. Often times we follow some patterns mindlessly. The routines, the actions and reactions become so much a part of our time and habit that we are easily blinded by the many unhealthy patterns we play out.

I've recently been fascinated to know more about the human brain. One topic in particular is the idea that many parts of my adult brain are in essence plastic, pliable.

I'm particularly intrigued with the idea that I can change many outcomes in my own life by changing the way I think and believe about a particular "idea."

For example, as a child I didn't have it so easy, not unlike many of us; I had an absentee father and a mother who had to work to provide for my brother and me. My father was intentionally absent and my mother absent for the preservation of her offspring. However, such circumstance created my own survival mode to activate out of what I interpreted as abandonment. Fast forward to the adult me. I was once married for five years and thought most certainly that any issues I had as a child were "dead and gone."

Until my ex-husband travelled for work and was out of the country for nearly a month. It wasn’t an instant regression, but nonetheless I realized later that I began to live out the patterns I knew so well as a child and even in my early adult years. I began to think I had been forsaken, I felt lonely and a sense of self preservation kicked in and felt so real. It even impacted my behavior. I realized through all of this that I still had a pattern, a path that I reverted to when I was faced with a situation that to me, mirrored being abandoned.

Since then I've searched and continue to search MY habits and interactions to find what false patterns or unhealthy patterns are still lurking.

The funny thing about patterns, is that left untamed (unhealthy patterns in particular) they can very easily
be passed on to our children and their children, and yet again a pattern continues.

Mental Exercise:

What patterns have you become so comfortable with when it comes to your health, food, career, and self worth?

Are your patterns healthy?

Are your patterns leading to success?

Are your patterns preventing it?

What pattern will you leave to the generation that follows you and the people in your sphere of influence?

Author: Lucinda Marie

*site source for depression loop by Kristin Appenbrink- How To Break The Cycle Of Negative Thoughts In Your Head